I haven't mentioned it a lot here, but my husband and I are open to having another baby. Our common comment when people say we should have another one is that, "We're not trying not to."
I'm sort of afraid of fertility treatments or anything like that. Have my miscarriages been because my old genes are producing a baby with serious problems? Would I be tempting fate to have a baby when nature is essentially telling me no? I had my first baby outside of a hospital and was very comfortable with that experience. Fertility treatment seems like almost extreme medical interference - exactly what I avoided with our first child.
I'd be scared (and I'm sure just about anyone would!) to be faced with cerebral palsy or birth defects for my baby.
I don't really expect much response to this. I know it's all okay in the end, and it's pretty okay already, so maybe it's the way things are meant to be :)